People that try to manipulate others usually use methods characterized as exploitative, devious, deceptive, and abusive to serve their own interests.
A clinical psychologist, Doctor George Simon, cites 3 requirements for successful manipulation:
– Not having a hard time inflicting harm on an unknowing victim.
– Comprehending the victim’s psychological shortcomings in identifying which method will be most effective.
– Concealing aggressive intentions and behaviors.
Seven Signs Somebody May Be Trying to Manipulate You:
– They may overwhelm you with alleged “facts”
Manipulators may overwhelm you with alleged “facts” (like events, data, or statistics) that you might not be familiar with. They hope that they will be capable of controlling the situation at their will.
In case you are in such a situation, you should walk away or use your best judgment.
– They may apply too much pressure on you to get you to make a decision before you are ready
People who try to manipulate you may apply too much pressure on you to get you to make a decision before you are ready. They usually create a false sense of urgency to increase the tension level. So, you should stay away from these people.
– They want to “hear your story” first
Manipulators use this technique to evaluate any perceived weaknesses or strengths. They may do so on a regular basis. So, if you are simply uncomfortable or suspect an ulterior motive, avoid engaging in conversation.
– They often twist the truth
They are pathological and compulsive liars. So, they often twist the truth to gain some type of leverage. They often make excuses, blame others, “forget” important information, exaggerate, display biases, and so on. That’s why you should stay away from them.
– They “play dumb” sometimes
They use professing ignorance as a way of trying to manipulate you. Sometimes they “play” dumb, which’s a passive-aggressive technique used to manipulate you. In case you are confident in your interpretation of their behaviour, you should call their bluff.
– They try to create a sense of inferiority or insecurity
Manipulators try to create a sense of inferiority or insecurity. They do so by using sarcasm and negative humor. They may poke fun at your personal life, your appearance, and your work habits.
You should tell them that this kind of talk is unwanted and unacceptable.
– They try to get you to conform to their demands
Sometimes they raise their voice when attempting to aggressively manipulate you. They try to get you to conform to their demands. In case you are in this situation, you should “say no” to any demands, remain level headed, or walk away.